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Maxx and his acquaintance narrated to me for the third time the reason why there exists discrimination in intermarriage of a Chinese and a Filipino. It is a unique set up than other foreign mix marriages like being married to an Indian or Japanese since Chinese are closely knit together as if a clan that can never be broken. It is of course, a terrible curse to be in as we try to belong into something that never wants us in the first place. Identity crises could have marked less important if experienced at the early stage of puberty.

Filipinos and Chinese are said to never mix in relationship and marriages. But we’ve heard a hundred stories told underground about these marriages. My boss narrates to me his acquaintance who throughout his lifetime never told his marriage to a Filipina and only after his father’s death did his siblings realized that they all raised a FilChi family. Another story is a Filipina coping with the language culture by learning the dialect herself and end up having an all boys Chinito children who were all good looking. There is, however, bad endings as well as a break up caused by an ill-ed mother and sends his son abroad. Another story about a Filipina who becomes big headed in the family business and was sent out in the streets as a wake up call. How does this match ever survive? If they can get a grip, why not go out of our country to avoid this futile effect.

There are two primary reasons why they don’t allow this event: language barrier and money conflicts. Let’s start with the former where language is simply a major cause of normal break ups between these two social races. Yes, love conquers all and your marrying the man, not the family so why the fuss? Let’s take you for instance and put you in a social gathering with only Chinese people, how would you feel as if watching an anime without the subtitles. Yes, you can smile back or do sign language but you’ll never know what’s going on and it’ll probably hit you the feeling of being left out, which is what the Chinese are trying to avoid. Not knowing the buzz is one thing but being paranoid that you are the subject of conversations is another, when sometimes it really isn’t the case.

Let’s move on with subject number two: show me the money. Most Chinese have lived well in our country because of their business instincts and the will to provide to their family. Due to this, a number had been successfully reigned in business ranks not merely to survive but to top the class. As money breeds evil, a few aspiring benefactors tries to get a hold of this fortune through marriage (if your not born with money, did not win the lotto, or not in the business of politics/education/foundation). A number indeed need not to be mentioned as Chinese also becomes victim to this situation. Money rules the world, so does a man’s life.
Let’s recount my conversation with Maxx’s acquaintance: (1) I don’t know Fookien and (2) I don’t like other people’s money. Simply said. So it ends.

End Notes
I never thought of Maxx as Chinese. I’ve always thought of him as a boy I dragged in Chaos to hear me whine my thoughts about Leukemia boy and Flipping Switches.